Chris Coggins: I do my spouses and my own laundry because for awhile now I work at home and so I'm there. My spouse often helps me put it away (which is the hard part). The kids do their own laundry (starting at age 7 or 8 with help that is slowly lessened). Ask first to take turns. If he/she will not, wash your own and leave hers/his to pile up. He/she will eventually do it or wear dirty clothes.***If she is not working, then she should do the laundry. If you both work, you split the chore or she takes care of something else and you cover the laundry. No one truly 'loves' household chores, but they must get done. If she refuses to help, take money from her clothing budget and pay a housekeeper to come in and do her part....Show more
Dexter Dingus: I am a manWe have 2 kids (4 and 7).She watches a lot of TV and she admits she is not motivated to house chores.
Voncile Slaubaugh: Get out sweetie.He needs therapy.
Kim Gerbino: I am seeing my family th! is week and I wonder how I should react because they expect me to be a mess or ask where my husband is? Should I tell them the truth or just play it cool. It really isn't their business right?
Barrett Zheng: This is a serious question:We have a real marriage with a kid, and we love each other but we are not living together because my husband has serious snoring problems and I can't sleep in the same house where he sleeps.Can I still extend my conditional greencard?...Show more
Florencia Manolakis: i would tell them the truth
Debora Soliani: Just be honest and tell them.
Joni Ziak: Don't wash his clothes and I'm sure he will get the message.
Lissette Semon: It may be an organizational problem. Most guys need structure. They require planning. Most problems like this disappear with one simple remedy. A honey do list. Problem is most women who figure this out mess up on over loading the husband so he can never finish the list. SO! Make a honey d! o list. Start small with guy stuff and one or two things he ma! y feel is woman's work. Like 1)fix the hinge on the cabinet, 2) sweep the garage, 3) do 2 complete loads of laundry. wash, dry, fold, and then you put them away. After a few weeks extend the laundry to completion, and maybe start some cooking activities like brown the burger, boil the pasta, grab an itemized grocery list.Again this will go down in flames if you over load him. It will work great if you include some fun tasks. ie: Go find a wallpaper mural that would look cool in the study of kids room. Get organized....Show more
August Hubbard: Tell him: If you want to make some one unhappy, pick somebody else, I'm through.
Raymundo Kyser: tell him/her that if they dont do the laundry then your not gonna put outsimples!
Berry Gilmore: You need to speak with your lawyer but I believe no, that is not a good enough reason. The only way I believe the green card and all can be validated or extended without being together or married still is if HE was unfaith! ful and cheated or was abusive and there is documentation form the divorce judge.Snoring is not a valid issue, you both need to work on your marriage, I find it silly that you can not even be in the same house. Get ear plugs or something or get him to the doctor. The immigration officers will look at that as think you do not honestly love each other enough and are not committed enough to make it work through thick and thick, in sickness and health. Immigration takes those vows very seriously. Your story here reaks of a sham/scam marriage and immigration will smell it too....Show more
Carter Dewater: I liked poison's answer! Still giggling! Same with doing dishes! I would feed him off dirty dishes and now we have different duties around the house. I still like the nakey part! LOLLOLOL!
Alecia Kaehler: be open and tell them the truth, they are your family and i am sure they care about you, and enjoy the season the best you can, don't let this separation keep yo! u from enjoying time with your family, move on and find be around that! make you happy and love you, i have been there
Whitley Leopold: my significant other has a patern of being verbally abusive to me when he is jelouse and he is jelouse all the time because we are long distance for now. yesterday he started the verbal abuse again, but to him it never seem like is is abusing me and when i answer something in self defence he pretends to be the victim and that i hurt him. yesterday i couln't take it anymore and i never did this but i say don't call me again, and said that is it. he said fine. of course i still love him and want to be with him, but i don't want to appologise for saying don't ever call me again, because his behavior cause me to say that while i was emotional. he kept saying that if we wheren't together that i would still sleep with him because i love him and that is not true... and he just kept sayign that like i'm some type of an easy thrill. what do i do?...Show more
Dionna Doyel: You need to stop rising to the bait! and getting emotional and out of control. When he next calls you tell him calmly at the beginning of the conversation that you will no longer tolerate even a hint of verbally abusive behaviour and that if he starts you will simply put the phone down and hang up the call...and do it! You must follow through. If you do this each time he behaves badly, he should get the message. If not, perhaps this is a relationship you shouldn't be in.
Katheryn Skrobacki: I am not sure about extending the greencard but you should have your husband checked for medical conditions because of the snoring. If it is so loud that you can sleep in the same house, he may have a serious problem and needs medical attention.
Morris Cuomo: first are you a man or a woman?
Rashad Marecki: Ask him to do it?
Tobie Oshea: If you do laundry on the weekends, it saves you on your electric bill. That way you can do it together and everybody wins. Or maybe you're being insensitive abo! ut it, and he or she is pissed off.
Von Houskeeper: tell her to d! ivide the work between yourselves. You go to a job, take trash out, and handle kids, she should cook and clean and do laundry.
Rona Ising: Sit your spouse down and lay it on the line in no uncertain terms, He/She, can contribute to the household chores and that includes laundry. I would take a 5 x 7 index card and write down the instructions to operating the washer and tape it to the machine. Some people are too embarrassed to admit they don't know how to operate one properly
Gaylord Barragan: Use sex as a helping tool. Tell him something along the lines of, "Hun until the laundry is done you get no pleasure out of me." If you keep to your word he may be stubborn for a couple of days, but by the third day he will wash the last sock by hand.
Melvina Bieri: does she do anything else all day or just sit in front of the tv watching oprah?
Len Bormes: when he has to run around nakey, he might get off his butt and do some.
Russel Gajate: Tell them ! you are spending the holiday apart from your husband or that you've separated. And if they press and it makes you uncomfortable say "I don't want to talk about it."
Adrian Paraz: I find that family will always be there for you but Ive also found out the hard way that if you do tell someone your problems in your relationship to your family members, whether its separation or not, it will always bit you in the "bottom". Also, until you know for sure that this is what its going to be... I advise you not to let others know too many details... It can sway your own heart from its desires and you may decide to take someones advice, which may affect how you truly would handle the situation if it came from your heart. Be sure of what you are doing and who you are talking to. Everyone will have their own advice to give! Its up to you if you decide to let others know whats going on in your relationship.... Remember, communication is the key to any relationship! If you and him hav! en't come to a clear agreement, maybe its best to give it time and not ! add to the problems by involving others....Show more
Curtis Josef: Tell the truth, but refuse to discuss details. Fend them off by saying "we're working on it" or "I don't care to discuss it" or even "please respect my privacy."
Terresa Tsasie: I do mine and the kids. If he wants laundry he has to do it himself. We both work but sometimes it does feel that he pulls no wait what so ever. So I just don't do his, its one thing less on my plate to do.
Cierra Gadbaw: what! so why not sleep in the house but in a diffrent room. it cant be that bad. and yes you can.
Marita Stadick: particular, if what you assert is authentic, you are able to report a joint application to eliminate the conditional foundation of your green card. you are able to report sort I-751 ninety days earlier the expiration date of your green card. the applying will enhance your conditional card in the time of the time which you're waiting for an answer on your application. If the I-751 ! is authorized, you will get a ten-12 months card.
Raul Lushbaugh: Well, what does your spouse do all day?If he/she sits on their lazy butt all day and does little of anything then I think I would have to overcome the impulse to kick them out and really let them fend for themselves and then start doing my own laundry - and only my own. Once they had no clothes left they would have to start doing it, at which point I'd start putting my clothes in the hamper again and letting them take care of it all.If your spouse also works or is a stay at home parent with little kids to look after (which is hellishly time-consuming and doesn't always leave time to get through all the laundry generated) then I think you need to stop just assuming it is their job to do laundry and sit down with them and work out who does which chores and stick to it.If you have already worked out who does which chores and he/she just doesn't bother to do their share then you will just have to accept you! are married to a rather lazy and selfish person - and decide where to ! go from there....Show more
Dexter Gold: You should be open to your family if you fell like it that day. My family is really close so if something happens everyone's informed after a day at the latest.. :) I know that most families aren't as close so I would definitely recommend to to just listen to what your heart tells you that very moment, depending on the atmosphere etc..
Dawn Saha: Give me a break, you love each other!Tell that to the judge, not to us out here. We are a little smarter and wiser than that. You got married to stay in the country, and now it is time to renew your card. Find the guy you married, pay him a $100 bucks, and hold his hand while you fill out the forms.No one really cares if your marriage is real or not, or comes with a kid! By the way, a kid is a baby goat....Show more
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